As I listened to her history, I felt a strong jerk down my spine. A strong feeling of compassion ran through my whole system. I was trembling yet giving her courage. I forced myself to remain calm. Wura’s face was laced with tears as she recalls her beginning. She was highly depressed. I felt guilty of making her unhappy; the culpability of forcing her to remember her ugly past dawned on me though it was really for the right reason. Who really is Wura?
I met her at Obalende bus-stop last week Monday (the eve of Sallah). Clad in an over-sized round-neck top and a faded jean trouser, this averagely built lady with right figure-8 structure was in front of a loading danfo bus. She was partially beckoning to people to enter the bus and discussing with some uniformed agbero NURTW workers whose business it is to regulate the loading of commercial buses. Her intimidating physique and natural beauty (though she was not wearing any make-up) attracted me. I knew instantly that the face is similar. “I know this person,” I thought inaudibly. I left the apple stand to catch a full glimpse of this relatively familiar person. I’d wanted to buy apple before I go back to see a friend inside a shopping complex close to Obalende bus-stop where I parked my car.
I moved closer to verify what I was thinking. “Could she really be someone I know” I kept wondering. When I moved closer, I noticed the driver of the vehicle giving the lady instruction to collect N150 from every passenger. The man was complaining that what they made from the last trip was less than the normal income, and this lady pleaded that she will adjust. To impress her boss, she shouted on top of her voice, “Ajah enter o! Just two more chance to go. Ajah N150!”
I was stunned. Could that lady be the conductor? I approached her. When I got closer to her, I realized the biggest shock of my life. This lady conductor was my best friend in primary and Junior Secondary School. She is Wuraola, the daughter of a rich business mogul in Surulere. When she saw me, she felt ashamed and drew me to a corner. We hugged and exchanged pleasantries. It was a joyful moment seeing my best friend in school. However, it was saddening to see her in that condition. I quickly told her to excuse herself from the garage. We located a nearby fast-food joint and started story telling.
This is Wura’s story……
Wura’s father died shortly before our JSCE exams. That was the time she left school. She was the only child of the parents and was barely 12 when the incident happened. Realizing this weakness, the paternal family members sent her mum packing claiming that she killed her husband. They seized all her father’s estates and neglected them. The mother left the house without a pin.
It was this experience that caused the high-blood pressure that killed Wura’s mother. After her death, Wura had no other option but to stay with his maternal uncle who also had 6 children to cater for and 2 external relations. Living then became difficult. She determined never to trace her paternal relatives.
After struggling to complete her Senior School Certificate (SSCE) without making the necessary papers, Wura’s uncle who used to be very supportive of her career was involved in an accident and was relieved of his work despite pleading with the management. Wura had to hawk ‘pure water’ and ‘gala’ on the expressway to raise money for her GCE and NECO, which she eventually passed with straight As. Though she wanted to further her education, nobody was ready to help. Even if she struggles to pay the tuition fees, what about other running expenses in the university? She was really confused and thus shelved the idea of schooling.
She started selling ‘rice and stew’ for casual labourers and building contractors around Iyana-Ipaja. It was during one of the trading outings that she was raped by a hit-and-run worker. She tried all her best to locate the guy but everything was in vain. The pregnancy resulted in an issue christened “Feyipitan”. The boy is now 2years old.
Obviously, life became too difficult for Wura after the birth of the baby, as that meant an extra responsibility. Besides, the emotional trauma she carries around is enough to make her sad. She therefore vowed to succeed by all means. So, she started first as a cleaner to raise money to buy baby food and other sundry expenses. With this, she also registered for a part-time OND programme at a private polytechnic in Lagos. So, to support the meager income from the cleaning job, she decided to be a bus conductor. She does this half-a-day and does the cleaning job very early in the morning or late in the night. Now she is in ND II and the baby is also in a private school.
………….
After hearing her story, I had a sober reflection. I prayed and prayed harder, first for her to break the jinx and also for myself to remain up there. But inside me I still wonder about the condition of life of my childhood friend. Who is to blame for all these woes that happened just within 10 years? Is it the father who died prematurely, the family members who neglected Wura and her mother, the uncle who could not send her to school, the worker who raped her and absconded into thin air or Wura herself?
Whichever way, I know God is not to blame.
I met her at Obalende bus-stop last week Monday (the eve of Sallah). Clad in an over-sized round-neck top and a faded jean trouser, this averagely built lady with right figure-8 structure was in front of a loading danfo bus. She was partially beckoning to people to enter the bus and discussing with some uniformed agbero NURTW workers whose business it is to regulate the loading of commercial buses. Her intimidating physique and natural beauty (though she was not wearing any make-up) attracted me. I knew instantly that the face is similar. “I know this person,” I thought inaudibly. I left the apple stand to catch a full glimpse of this relatively familiar person. I’d wanted to buy apple before I go back to see a friend inside a shopping complex close to Obalende bus-stop where I parked my car.
I moved closer to verify what I was thinking. “Could she really be someone I know” I kept wondering. When I moved closer, I noticed the driver of the vehicle giving the lady instruction to collect N150 from every passenger. The man was complaining that what they made from the last trip was less than the normal income, and this lady pleaded that she will adjust. To impress her boss, she shouted on top of her voice, “Ajah enter o! Just two more chance to go. Ajah N150!”
I was stunned. Could that lady be the conductor? I approached her. When I got closer to her, I realized the biggest shock of my life. This lady conductor was my best friend in primary and Junior Secondary School. She is Wuraola, the daughter of a rich business mogul in Surulere. When she saw me, she felt ashamed and drew me to a corner. We hugged and exchanged pleasantries. It was a joyful moment seeing my best friend in school. However, it was saddening to see her in that condition. I quickly told her to excuse herself from the garage. We located a nearby fast-food joint and started story telling.
This is Wura’s story……
Wura’s father died shortly before our JSCE exams. That was the time she left school. She was the only child of the parents and was barely 12 when the incident happened. Realizing this weakness, the paternal family members sent her mum packing claiming that she killed her husband. They seized all her father’s estates and neglected them. The mother left the house without a pin.
It was this experience that caused the high-blood pressure that killed Wura’s mother. After her death, Wura had no other option but to stay with his maternal uncle who also had 6 children to cater for and 2 external relations. Living then became difficult. She determined never to trace her paternal relatives.
After struggling to complete her Senior School Certificate (SSCE) without making the necessary papers, Wura’s uncle who used to be very supportive of her career was involved in an accident and was relieved of his work despite pleading with the management. Wura had to hawk ‘pure water’ and ‘gala’ on the expressway to raise money for her GCE and NECO, which she eventually passed with straight As. Though she wanted to further her education, nobody was ready to help. Even if she struggles to pay the tuition fees, what about other running expenses in the university? She was really confused and thus shelved the idea of schooling.
She started selling ‘rice and stew’ for casual labourers and building contractors around Iyana-Ipaja. It was during one of the trading outings that she was raped by a hit-and-run worker. She tried all her best to locate the guy but everything was in vain. The pregnancy resulted in an issue christened “Feyipitan”. The boy is now 2years old.
Obviously, life became too difficult for Wura after the birth of the baby, as that meant an extra responsibility. Besides, the emotional trauma she carries around is enough to make her sad. She therefore vowed to succeed by all means. So, she started first as a cleaner to raise money to buy baby food and other sundry expenses. With this, she also registered for a part-time OND programme at a private polytechnic in Lagos. So, to support the meager income from the cleaning job, she decided to be a bus conductor. She does this half-a-day and does the cleaning job very early in the morning or late in the night. Now she is in ND II and the baby is also in a private school.
………….
After hearing her story, I had a sober reflection. I prayed and prayed harder, first for her to break the jinx and also for myself to remain up there. But inside me I still wonder about the condition of life of my childhood friend. Who is to blame for all these woes that happened just within 10 years? Is it the father who died prematurely, the family members who neglected Wura and her mother, the uncle who could not send her to school, the worker who raped her and absconded into thin air or Wura herself?
Whichever way, I know God is not to blame.
28 comments:
This is a very sad story,l wish her all the best and pray that God will smile on her at last.
What a pity! I will advise the lady to be prayerful and steadfast. She is already in ND II and the child is okay. That shows her level of seriousness.
It sounded like true-life story film. Wande, you enjoy telling stories. Your writing style is cool.
My dear friend, you write beautifully but this is such a terribly sad story. How strange, yesterday was my fathers aniversary, he died yesterday 9 years ago...I don't think anyone is to blame for the shape my life has taken since I am a believer in destiny. It's just life and we all need to face up to it. You never know whats around the corner for this young lady, you never know. Nothing is impossible.
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btw: Have you read any books by rushdie salman? Hope to see you on red eyes
Touching Story
You are such a wonderful writer
@anonymous,
thanks. i also pray God smiles on her.
@princekay123,
yeah. she is very serious wit everytin she's doing and that's why i'm in support. she will round off her OND next year.
meanwhile, thanks for the compliment.
@red eyes,
sorry about ur dad. yes, we must face life whether it is bitter or sweet. i agree wit u.
meanwhile, í don't read novels; i only read mags and newspapers. i stopped reading novels long time ago, because it was having a huge psychological impact on me.
thanks for ur consistency, i'll be on ur blog soon.
@iyalode,
thanks for d compliment.
first time here
The Good lord will see her thru and i believe she's going placesess in life!
that was a very nice write up. i feel down and happy for her, but hey life is only destined by God, if those things did not happen to her she might have not known her full potential, which i beleive she still has more in her, by the grace of God.
i lost my father 6 years ago and if i did not i would have been one lazy, parent driven child, that got carried around by my father's driver. but after he died i have become a man by the grace of God, closer to God and more matured, work to go to school and survive in another country i did not grow up in.
my story and hers just says "you are shaped by what happens to u in your life everyday". she is going to be better than she can ever imagine, I know that deep down me.
God be with her.
Nice blog too.
but i would tell you to be careful in bringing her into your life, just pray to God and ask maybe your pastor to pray with you too, because there is power in agreement.
@anonymous,
thanks for the comment.
@9ja' ot,
sorry abt ur dad.
it is very true dat the bitter side of life prepares one for d challenges ahead in life. if you don't experience the ugly side, be careful.
thanks so much for your comment and encouragement.
The last line jolted me a lil bit...
God is not to blame...
Dat's like sayin God knows nothin or he has power over nothin. I believe nothin can happen to a human being, created by God, without the creator allowin it. It would merely mean the creator is not responsible for his creatures...
I think dat's d path God chose for Wuraola, and if he is indeed God, then he has somethin good in store for her. It's only for her to pray and work towards d fulfillment of her fate...
Sho! When I become philosopher or preacher sef? Na wa o!
hmmmm!!
for the 1st time....i agree wit fineboyagbero :-)
dearie' It is well
Hi Atanda,I must first commend on your writing skill.You are perfect!
Let's Rush to your question
Whis is to blame?
I won't Blame the father that dies earlier-Death is a call,he who answers the call (death) obeys God!
Who then will I blame?I will blame the farmily,they are just wicked.Look this is time for us to stand out and say no to these rubbishes and wickedness of African tradition-Wickeding a widow and the children.Untile we stand out against this,it will keep on doing more harm to our helpless widows in our community...
Thank God for somebody like the uncle,God will Bless him.I pray he will recover soon
MY ADVICE TO WURA
Is Akons in his Music(Ghetto) says 'even that life you should have is borrow,for you are not promised tomorrow'
Dido in life for rent puts it like this 'If my life is for rent,then nothing that I have that is truly mine'.So understand that is is how the world tends to be,Forget about the past and looks for the future.Who knows tomorrow?God will surly grant you favour...
PLEASE MISS(MRS?)ATANDA,DO NOT MIND THIS MY LARGE COMMENTS,IT WAS HOW IT TOUCHED ME...DON'T TELL ME THAT THIS YOUR STORY IS NOT REAL COS IT LOOKS REAL.
Regards.
Surely, God knows everything and has unrestricted power to control everything in the world. But if God has all powers, who is responsible for evils?
sometimes, things just happen that make no sense...
wouldnt really say its God's will to make us suffer but when we face these issues with the right atitude, our characters are reformed and refined and we're ultimately the better for it.....
plus...."all things work together for good for the who love God"..
Wura will still smile...and eventually telling her story would probably help change a life or two...
temiloluwa
@fineboy agbero
It is indeed right to say that God is not to blame, but if u look at it critically, who is to blame? Human actions are determined to an extent though we're at liberty to choose and be responsible for our choice and the implications of those actions/inactions.
I also think just like u dat God chose dat path for Wuraola to either teach her a lesson or prepare her for something big in future.
Thanks for ur comment. You have inspired me in no small way through your blog.
@Lg
Thanks for visiting. Meanwhile, i hope u've settled ur rift with fineboy agbero. I'm on ur side o! Hw can one Bolatito (with Oyo tribal mark) be prettier than u?
@naijacampusforum
Thanks a million for visitng and registering ur opinion. Thanks for the comment too.
The story is a 'true-life' imaginary situation, which is a product of the creativity of a potential scriptwriter (that's me!).
For ur info i'm still a miss (i'm just 20!).
@princekay123
I believe God created positive and negative; good and bad; black and white, all to serve a purpose.
This explains the source of evil. That's just my idea, you knw u're my SENIOR. Thanks for the enlightenment anyway.
@temi
yeah. I believe u. "All things work together for good". There is every possibility dat Wura will smile. I hope so, I pray so.
Thanks a million for the comment.
Let's blame the system which abandoned the people. Nigeria who is not caring about her people!
Each time I think about people that are victims of this system, I count my blessing and appreciate God wonders in my life!
Wura is truely a strong woman...eventhough she has been through alot she's still going strong! May God continue to bless, protect and guard her and her baby.
Please tell her with God nothing is impossible! Stay closer to God no matter what the adversary!
"The system is decaying and killing Nigerians everyday" - Kunle Elebute, 2008.
@Latifa,
Good talk. You also have a nice blog. I will drop a comment as soon as I compose my thoughts.
@yewande,
Nice storyline.
no one can be blamed.
God works in mysterious ways. It might be His way of preparing her for great things to come. U know when u've bn thru so much, U tend to me more appreciative of the little accomplishments. I'm sure God has great plans for her and her son.
oh wow..
such tragedies as this make my 'problems' seem so trivial..
poor her..i cant even begin to imagine what shes goin thru..i admire her determination..
may God just help her..
wow...this story is truly touching and very sad...but deep within this I sense a ray of hope and through the cracks in the wall will come sunshine...I just knw it...
Wura’s story almost had me shedding tears. Life’s cruel sometimes but then it’s the survival instinct that determines whether we pull through or fall through. I admire Wura’s courage and I’m sure she’ll ‘break that jinx’ like u said. She’s a survivor. Hope she believes in God. That works as well.
life can be so unfair. but then nothing done cant be undone. I mean with determination, she can still find her footings. She shd not lose hope. Great people have got a lot of painful history
Hope you will see her again. Let her know how Oprah turned her pain into opportunity. Give her other examples amongst us here in Nigeria. She must not give up
Awww this story is sooo touching, im almost in tears...Ase things like this really doo happen? sounds like one of those Yoruba movies..Omolomo...Oga oooo!!! Aye le mehn! Im loving the childs name tho Feyiptan, its very nice...its a story to tell loto.. Ka se ma dupe right? God will continue to remain with her...Bless
THANKS everyone.
@latifa
can we really blame the system? do you believe in destiny?
@princekay123
thanks for your concern. i believe the system is rotten, but we cannot put the entire blame on the system. we need to reflect inward. we need to know that certain events happens inevitably. we only need to prepare against them.
@iwalewa mcdaniel
i also believe nobody should be blamed. we're all contigent beings; we do not determine what happens to us though we have some levels of liberty and responsibilities.
nice talk jo.
@buttercup
thanks jare. the story is very touching yet real. i'm thanking God for her determination and focus.
@chari
i can bet there is something big awaiting her. thats how nature works. don't u think so?
@gbengasile
we cannot run away from the 'downs' of life. anytime i sit in fast food outlet to eat, i always remember that somebody somewhere is dying because of food. thats life, but we must learn to help others. lets build that good relationship with others who look up to us.
@standtall
thanks for the advice.
@afunto baby
does it sound like a Yoruba film? thanks anyway. i like the way you blend your posts with local words (Yoruba).
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