Wednesday, September 24, 2008


pix: cross section of people present at a party held in Lag recently. The first two from left are my friends.

Is it really true that we are the architects of our troubles? Why do we always do things that eventually inconvenient us? Must we do it! Must we go to that party half-naked? Must we date our friend’s boyfi? Must we hang around him eventhough it is crystal clear he’s got a life-partner? Must we pretend we don’t love him though we had sleepless nights because of this same person? Why must we do those things?

The questions are endless…

I wonder why people deliberately cause havoc for themselves. I wonder why we cannot learn how to comport ourselves. I wonder why we dress scandalously. I wonder why we lie even when the situation doesn’t require it.

Why do we like to live like the other person?

Why do we drop honest comments only as an ANONYMOUS blogger?

Must we show off our curvy regions to attract the right people?

Why do we think innocent-looking girls are cheap and ward-spraying guys are mungu?

These were the questions that raced through my mind after reading LINDA IKEJI’s blogposts of 14/09/08 and 15/09/08. I still cannot come to terms with so many things we do everyday.

Sincerely, why do we do these things?

I’m sure you’re wondering why I am going philosophical. Its because of an experience a friend shared with me yesterday. I discovered that I am also guilty of the same crime, that’s why I am reflecting on it to ease the burden in my heart.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Can I Date Him?

Can I Date Him?

Sorry I didn’t update for a long time. I’d been so busy. I’m currently writing exams. I’ve been going through hell this examination period. I registered 24 units (that’s 12 courses) comprising out 6 carry-over and 5 core courses that I must pass if really I must graduate next year. The only elective course I am writing is the one I am good at. The thought of the slim chance I have to pass these courses alone send shock through my whole system each time anybody ask me of my studies. I must confess that I’ve never had a nice time since I gained admission 3 years ago. It’s been one trouble to another, one carry-over to another, one lecturer-‘wahala’ to another. Ha! I’m fed up.

The pix
My friends. I took this picture when we hung out at a party. We were at that party few days to our exams.

9ice’s Dream
Three weeks after, I am yet to forget my DREAM of 9ice. I still remember vividly how excited I felt that day after I woke up, and how disappointed I was too.
“You shouldn’t have interrupted my sleep!” I shouted at my friend.
“Sorry to disturb you my dear, you can go back to sleep. I was only considering your plight, if not I won’t bother to disturb you. Remember you have 6 carry-over courses to do this semester,” my best friend and only roommate told me.
I saw the genuineness in her face. She’s really concerned about my plight. She loved me, and she doesn’t hide it. That’s why I also try as much as possible to reciprocate by showering her with love. After all, one good turn deserves another.

Meanwhile, I have this guy disturbing me and I think it will be better for my friends on ‘blogsphere’ to advise on what to do…

I met this guy at a party I attended few days to the commencement of our second semester exams that we’re still writing. I was in company of my friends (3 of them) and he also came to the venue with his friends. I met him first at the entrance when he was trying to buy drinks through the vending machine. The machine ‘swallowed’ his money and he had no physical cash left to buy the drink. We gave him one of the extra drinks we bought and left. Later he came back to appreciate our gesture and was also trying to be friendly (you know guys now). He got one of my friend’s phone number after the 15minutes chat and left. We were even gisting that Bola (my friend) will be hooked. But to my greatest surprise, this guy called me two days after. Obviously, he got my number from my friend.

After the first call, the guy started sending me gifts and showing too much care. He calls at least 8 times in a day. At a time I asked his how he recharge his phone. “Your worth is more than the card,” he always says anytime I ask him. Problems I foresee however are that:

He is Yahoo
This guy is a big time yahoo-boy. I discovered this through his life style. You know, a guy without a regular lifestyle; he uses 3 powerful Nokia phones, a tyte laptop and a customized car. He hangs around club and doesn’t care about his studies. He is always on phone with one oyinbo lady or South African friend. And his wallet will be filled with crispy dollar note. Abeg, I dey fear EFCC o!

He is used to Show-Off
Another thing about this guy is that he is used to show-off. I never see this kind person before. We went to Silverbird Galleria to catch fun. We ran into a ditch on our way and had a flat tyre. Instead of this guy to jack the car up and replace the tyre with the extra, he called his friend at home to bring another car to pick us. We had to wait inside a fast-food outlet for the 1hr 30minutes that it took the friend to show up. I was really mad at him not only because of the time we wasted but because the guy wasn’t showing originality. What does it take to change a flat tyre? The fact is that I don’t appreciate fake people. Of course, I change my tyre myself when I experience a flat tire. So, what’s the big deal?

Ladies Flock around Him
The biggest challenge I foresee is too many ladies around this guy. He is tied to so many people he cannot even handle. Though he tries as many as possible to show commitment to me, I still see myself running into a trouble if I allow him have my heart. He receives too many calls and SMS from ladies.

I am confused now that my exam is coming to an end. I promised him we’ll talk better after my papers so that I will have enough time to think about it. Now I have just 3 days left and my heart is already aching. No doubt, I want the guy, but I feel it’s not going to work because of the obstacles on ground. It’s just inevitable that the relationship may crumble. Besides, does he deserve my heart? Can I date him?

Somebody, PLS ADVISE.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

My Date with 9ice

Can I join you angel,” was what I heard. It was an enticing voice with a persuasive tone. I turned back to see who is making this request. It turned out to be a guy with an intimidating physique. Yeah, very intimidating! He’s 6’1 tall, dark in complexion, lovely face with 1-1 tribal mark (the Egba type), neat and hairy, and averagely slim. He was putting on a T-Shirt with an inscription “Don’t Tell Your Mum When You Get Home” on a jean trouser, and a pair of sandal. He looked simple, neat and enticing. I couldn’t resist him. His face looked familiar. I started thinking and discovered he’s the RnB King – 9ice.

Can it be 9ice? I looked at him again, and again. It was 9ice – the reigning Hip Hop star that performed for Mandela recently in London. The same guy won 3 awards at Hip Hop World Award, and also has different nominations in his kitty. He is Abolore Adigun Alapomeji Akande!

“Why not? You can join me,” I replied while still observing him. I noticed he was holding a Black Berry phone and consciously dangling a key (It was a car key). I watch him carefully as he takes a sit close to me. Then I asked him “Are you 9ice?”

“Yes. I’m 9ice,” he said while trying to settle down on a sit beside me. “So what are you doing here. Are you not going for class” he asked and I replied promptly, “I am reading for some carry-over courses I’m rewriting this semester. That’s why I am here to read.”

We started gisting and before you say Jack Robinson, we’ve became acquainted like old friends. At exactly 6pm, we left the Lagoon Front for the Arts Block. We stayed there for another 30minutes before we finally left for our various hostels. He covered his face with a cap to prevent people from discovering him. Of course, we exchanged numbers. He called me three times that day before I slept.

We met at the MTN Reference Library beside the Main Auditorium. He came there in company of five guys. He introduced them as ID Cabassa, Sayo, Ade, Tunde (his PA) and Konga (another known artiste). He told me they’re going for a show and will be back the next day. He called me 4 times again that day.

We went to watch a film show at the Main Auditorium. It was a film produced by Kunle Afolayan, titled “Irapada” (Redemption). The movie is a classical one with an interesting story line. From the logical arrangement to coherent plot outline and quality diction to flawless narrative pattern, the film stands out. I really enjoyed it.
We laughed and laughed until the end of the movie. The film took almost all of our evening that day, as we were still at the auditorium till 8pm. After the film, I announced my intention to go back to the hostel and was ready to go.

“We need to talk,” 9ice said. “Let’s go inside the auditorium.” I followed him and we sat inside the hall. It was just two of us in the big hall. We sat face to face, looking deep into each other’s face. I noticed he was also stylishly staring at my cleavage, but I didn’t budge. For 5 minutes, he was staring at me speechlessly without uttering a word. I became nervous. Our (both of us) tension heightened, as the place became very silent. No noise, except for his heartbeat. I felt his pause breaking and his throat drying up. I was also tensed myself, but still in full control of my head.

“What do you want to say,” I broke the silence.

Instead of speaking, he came closer. He drew me closer and held my cheeks in his palms. Then he touched my lips, caressing it softly while saying some rubbish that I couldn’t comprehend. Then he straightened my neck and shoot out his neck, wanting to balance his lips with mine. As his lips reached mine…I woke up.

“Yewande, are you not going for lectures?” I heard the voice of my best friend and room mate, Laide.

“Oh God! It was a dream.” Gongo ti so!

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Parties I attended

This is my best pix of the week. 9ice (I love this guy) and friends!
I am angry, lonely and happy. Why? It’s because of my experience. Let me acquaint you with a little of my background… My June and July were really terrible, starting with a hot quarrel with my old friend (a guy who called himself my boyfriend for 2 years). It was a sweet-bitter experience. Why? I wanted to be with him, but still cannot continue with a guy like Gbenga. He is just too arrogant for my liking. Of course, I accepted him into my life after pestering me for months with the hope that he’s going to change one day. But instead of turning a new leaf, my friend became the baddest ‘bobo’ in Lagos. He jumps from one club to another (that’s not really a problem because we usually hang out together), and started smoking overnight (I got pissed off with this). Gbenga was consuming 1 packet of cigarette in less than 24 hours!
The sister got to know and was like ‘Yewande what did you do to him?’ I got fed up of the whole thing and had to take that decision. Now I am so lonely (not searching o!) lol.
I know blogging will keep me busy and in no time I’ll forget about him.

Meanwhile, let me brief you of some events I attended within July-August.

This one was a show put up by the rap-sensational, Asha (the US guy, not the solo queen). It was held at Options Nite Club at Ikeja. It had so many artiste in attendance. I got to the venue late (in company of Bayo Adetu of PMNEWS) and later left for another show in VI.

Linda Ikeji’s fashion show. It was a powerful one held at Golden Gate Resturant, Ikoyi. It had so many dignitaries in attendance. Role call: KC Presh, Cossy Orjiakor, Zacky Adzee, Mojo Lexy-eyes, etc.

It was held inside the cosy Afe Babalola Hall, University of Lagos, Akoka. It was a nite of bliss with so many crème-de la-crème in the entertainment circuit. Role call: ID Cabassa and crew, Vaughn, Mimmy Tea, Ruggedman, J Drama, JEFF, MC Ice Water, J’Bright, etc. After party was done at K’s Place (Club Papas), VI. It was a sweet one, I met Seun Kuti and Jimy Jatt @ the after party.

This one was a classical bash to introduce the Olu Maintain crew. It was held inside Eko Hotels and Suites, VI. Olu just they show himself for that party. Yahoozee! Role call: Olu Maintain, DJ Zeez, Frank Papas, Shina Oyetayo, Ayo Lawal, Sunday Encomium, etc.

It was done at the Sports Centre of Unilag with so many pretty chics and handsome guys. Some known artiste also attended. The sweet gist, I met a fine guy at this event and we’re now best of friends (I’ll gist you about him later).

She is a popular Unilag student with a class. She’s also a model, actress and fast rising make-up artiste. She did her b’day bash at a garden in Ojota (the place is a popular celebrity hangout but I don’t want to advertise). So, many Nollywood stars in attendance.

Then the last one…

This one is an award of Unilag student. It was done at a popular event centre in Agidingbi, Lagos. Artistes also flooded the event.


Waoh! Is it this easy to be a blogger?

I'd visited thousands of blogs and kept wondering how to start mine. I ver knew it could be this easy. Nevertheless, thank God for everything.

This is the introduction. I will use this blog to talk about my social and sexual life (lol). Well, thanks to these people for inspiring me: Bellenaija, NYSC, lindaikeji, veraikeji, funmiiyanda, niyitabiti, facetgrapevine, tonypayne, azuhamatus, allibaba, stanstill, solafolowosele and others. I know I still need to learn from you guys, so don't hesitate to put me through anytime I call.