Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Can I Date Him?


Can I Date Him?

Sorry I didn’t update for a long time. I’d been so busy. I’m currently writing exams. I’ve been going through hell this examination period. I registered 24 units (that’s 12 courses) comprising out 6 carry-over and 5 core courses that I must pass if really I must graduate next year. The only elective course I am writing is the one I am good at. The thought of the slim chance I have to pass these courses alone send shock through my whole system each time anybody ask me of my studies. I must confess that I’ve never had a nice time since I gained admission 3 years ago. It’s been one trouble to another, one carry-over to another, one lecturer-‘wahala’ to another. Ha! I’m fed up.

The pix
My friends. I took this picture when we hung out at a party. We were at that party few days to our exams.

9ice’s Dream
Three weeks after, I am yet to forget my DREAM of 9ice. I still remember vividly how excited I felt that day after I woke up, and how disappointed I was too.
“You shouldn’t have interrupted my sleep!” I shouted at my friend.
“Sorry to disturb you my dear, you can go back to sleep. I was only considering your plight, if not I won’t bother to disturb you. Remember you have 6 carry-over courses to do this semester,” my best friend and only roommate told me.
I saw the genuineness in her face. She’s really concerned about my plight. She loved me, and she doesn’t hide it. That’s why I also try as much as possible to reciprocate by showering her with love. After all, one good turn deserves another.

Meanwhile, I have this guy disturbing me and I think it will be better for my friends on ‘blogsphere’ to advise on what to do…

I met this guy at a party I attended few days to the commencement of our second semester exams that we’re still writing. I was in company of my friends (3 of them) and he also came to the venue with his friends. I met him first at the entrance when he was trying to buy drinks through the vending machine. The machine ‘swallowed’ his money and he had no physical cash left to buy the drink. We gave him one of the extra drinks we bought and left. Later he came back to appreciate our gesture and was also trying to be friendly (you know guys now). He got one of my friend’s phone number after the 15minutes chat and left. We were even gisting that Bola (my friend) will be hooked. But to my greatest surprise, this guy called me two days after. Obviously, he got my number from my friend.

After the first call, the guy started sending me gifts and showing too much care. He calls at least 8 times in a day. At a time I asked his how he recharge his phone. “Your worth is more than the card,” he always says anytime I ask him. Problems I foresee however are that:

He is Yahoo
This guy is a big time yahoo-boy. I discovered this through his life style. You know, a guy without a regular lifestyle; he uses 3 powerful Nokia phones, a tyte laptop and a customized car. He hangs around club and doesn’t care about his studies. He is always on phone with one oyinbo lady or South African friend. And his wallet will be filled with crispy dollar note. Abeg, I dey fear EFCC o!

He is used to Show-Off
Another thing about this guy is that he is used to show-off. I never see this kind person before. We went to Silverbird Galleria to catch fun. We ran into a ditch on our way and had a flat tyre. Instead of this guy to jack the car up and replace the tyre with the extra, he called his friend at home to bring another car to pick us. We had to wait inside a fast-food outlet for the 1hr 30minutes that it took the friend to show up. I was really mad at him not only because of the time we wasted but because the guy wasn’t showing originality. What does it take to change a flat tyre? The fact is that I don’t appreciate fake people. Of course, I change my tyre myself when I experience a flat tire. So, what’s the big deal?

Ladies Flock around Him
The biggest challenge I foresee is too many ladies around this guy. He is tied to so many people he cannot even handle. Though he tries as many as possible to show commitment to me, I still see myself running into a trouble if I allow him have my heart. He receives too many calls and SMS from ladies.

I am confused now that my exam is coming to an end. I promised him we’ll talk better after my papers so that I will have enough time to think about it. Now I have just 3 days left and my heart is already aching. No doubt, I want the guy, but I feel it’s not going to work because of the obstacles on ground. It’s just inevitable that the relationship may crumble. Besides, does he deserve my heart? Can I date him?

Somebody, PLS ADVISE.

10 comments:

Sola Folowosele said...

awyhsh!!the babe in green is ..is..is aop!! infact the advice i have for u disappeared when i saw the..th..e. lemme go and recompose the advice..i will be back

Yewande Atanda said...

mr. sola,
for your info, the gurl is about-to-wed!
thanks for visiting first anyway

Sola Folowosele said...

i beg, send the wedding invite whenever it's ready, i want to see the lucky chap..abi na him be that?

princekay123 said...

Wande

The babe in green needs somebody like me!

aloted said...

seems u already know the answer to the question u have asked us...

see it is all about u and what u want. if u think he is worth u and u can cope with all the things u have listed in ur post then go ahead and date him...if not u know wat to do...

all the best in ur exam

Yewande Atanda said...

@mr. sola
don't worry, i'll kip u posted.

@anonymous
no comment. thanks for visiting anyway.

@princekay123
the babe is occupied. period!

@aloted
thanks so much for the advice. God answered my prayer, i summoned courage to talk to him. i gave him reasons i feel the relationship will not work. he showed maturity and understanding that i never expected. we're now best of friend; i don't need to worry about hurting anyone again.

my exams were lovely. i'm sure i'll make some Bs and Cs this semester. even though i missed so many tests, my exams were fantastic.

aloted said...

awww...am glad to hear things worked out fine :)

you go girl! i like ur confidence...don't worry...all those carry overs will be a thing of the past very soon..just stay focused :)

Yewande Atanda said...

@aloted
thanks dear. i just pray i pass those courses this semester. nevertheless, i hav every reason to be grateful to God.

Lati said...

Wendy forget the guy..I knw it's a bit late to comment!! but I just have to...I dnt lik Yahoo Boys!!!

It's mostly we, Nigerians in Diaspora, that have to suffer the stigmatization called by yahoo yahoo boys!!!

I'm always proud to be a Nigerian and I will answer when called any day because I'm a gr8 Nigerian!

Buttercup said...

ok well, u say u r the best of friends now..i guess thats better than actually being his gf..cos sorry, but uh, he ddnt sound too promisin..